I give up

I spent like 2 hours doing up a job application and at the bottom you know what they say? They say you need to be able to communicate at a business level in English and Mandarin. And that seems to be the case for about 8 out of 10 jobs they advertise here. Did I miss a fucking memo that we are part of China? Why don’t they just make Mandarin compulsory in schools? Just change the business language to Mandarin, why still keep it as English? What is the point of the pretense of embracing diversity when that doesn’t seem to be the case.

My reality

I am trying this whole focus on the positive thing, so I was having one of those, appreciate the little things in life moments and was admiring a pretty little butterfly fluttering by, thinking how beautiful it is with it’s a white and orange wings, when a bird (a Myna, in case you were wondering what kind) swoops down and eats it. Thanks universe for that reality check.

Shy guy

There are some songs that you hear and you just can’t help but move to the music. Like Happy by Pharrell Williams, that’s a song that you cannot not bop your head or tap your feet too wherever you are. But to be honest, I am not sure about the room without a roof part. Why would a room without a roof be happy? He could have written so many other things. Anyway, today I heard another song that made me want to wave my hands in the air (and a bit nostalgic too). It’s on the Bad Boys sound, track. Shy guy by Diana King, anyone remember that one (video below)? That song came out nearly 20 years ago. Can you believe that? I’m getting old.

 

 

How are you?

Its a question that’s both important and pointless at the same time don’t you think? We seem to have been programmed to respond to that as a reflex action without thought. But if you stop and think about what your really answer would be sometimes the actual answer is so far from the “fine/good, how are you?” that we are conditioned to say. There’s really little point in asking that question if you think about it, so why still do it? I don’t know but what I can say is if I ever ask that question, I can promise that I am very willing to listen the answer. The real, non-socially-accepted answer. No matter how long it take. Well unless I really don’t like you as a person, but I am easy going going and I am fairly easy going so there are not many people I don’t like. Though, if I really don’t like you I wouldn’t ask how you are doing. And if for some reason, maybe a force of habit to socially conform, I do ask someone I don’t care for how they are and they respond with a the “real” answer, then I deserve it. Don’t see it happening though.

The job interview paradigm

Anita:

Interesting perspective on the job hunting process. How I wish we are the ones that that have the say in whether we want a job or not. And FYI if anyone starts this revolution, I am happy to be part of it.

Originally posted on The Worlds A Broken Bone:

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Recently, I went for an interview for a job to get me through university – just to earn some expendable dollar. It got me thinking how alien job interviews actually are:

For instance; It seems strange that you can base ability to work on hobbies and peoples ability to think on the spot? With questions like Can you think of a time you’ve worked in a team effectively? Almost everyday, like when an Xbox controller runs out of batteries and the four of you scourer around looking for other electrical items to steal their power source – but i’m 100% sure that doesn’t count as an example.

The fact that they evaluate how valuable you are to them, is like wearing a shop tag which has characteristics like: Long life guaranteed, not machine washable or can be used as an expensive equivalent of slave labour!

It’s strange that we just…

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Introverts in Singapore

Singapore is a great country. I know from reading my blog (or if you know me in person) you might not get that, but in all honesty it isn’t too bad. It’s safe, clean, efficient, has great transport and infrastructure and pretty much all the creature comforts you can expect in a developed country. The thing is though, it’s a city-state. A small island nation with no natural resources, so in order to stay viable, all efforts are focused on the economy. It’s one big rat race here, similar to any big city around the world I would imagine. It’s crowded and commercial, and this I know is not a bad thing for most people. However, the dynamics of this city I have come to realise may not be the most conducive or agreeable for introverts.

Firstly, there’s the issue of peace and quiet. Quiet in Singapore…..yeah good luck with that. Trying to find a quiet space or spot here is like trying to find Bigfoot. Okay maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration. Though if you go  There are a few places where you can probably go but they aren’t very accessible. It’s hard to find a place like a cafe or coffee shop where you can just sit for hours with a coffee, or read or write or just recharge in general. All my usual haunts are getting filled with people. Even MacRitchie Reservoir and the trails there. That park used to have an acceptable number of people. However as park of an “upgrading” effort, the national parks board has built a multi-story carpark there so as the facilitate a larger number of people there. I wonder if there was any sustainability study done to ascertain the maximum number of visitors the park can take before there are detrimental effects to the natural environment. I doubt there was.

And that ties in with the general lifestyle here. Singapore is always described as a vibrant, fast-paced and colourful city. Which translates to a pretty fun, entertaining way of life. However it also means crowd and constant construction work. I honestly cannot remember the last time I went out of the house and didn’t see any construction work taking place. And forget going out on weekends especially the main city/town area unless you like getting your personal space violated by strangers and waiting in long lines to get a table at a nice cafe or restaurant.

Finally there’s home. Singapore is a collectivist society. Which basically means, you live at home with your parents until you A) get married,  B) get a job overseas, C) are estranged from your parents for some reason. You can’t buy a house here as a single person until you are 35, or really rich that you can afford private housing. Therefore as an introvert, having home as your sanctuary isn’t so easy here. Which might be why I struggle with the concept of home. Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents and am trying to not take for granted having a roof over my head and food. But there are times I just want to be left alone and some privacy which can be lacking when you live with family. And yes I do have my own room but at the end of the day, it’s still in my father’s house which technically makes it his too doesn’t it? I don’t think I will get away with cooping myself up in my room for hours without questions asked.

All in all, it’s hard being an introvert in a bustling, busy city. If anyone has any tips on how to escape the craziness and recharge from time to time, please do let me know.

Question quest

At any given time, there are a several questions swirling around in my head . Some I will the answers to but the others I am sure might remained answered. Here is a sampling of these.

  • Who deemed cauliflower edible?
  • Why are degrees so expensive?
  • Why do dads think they are hilarious?
  • Will I ever meet someone that didn’t LOVE the movie inception? (I mean I think it was alright – clever and entertaining but it wasn’t that fantastic)
  • Why does coffee taste so good?
  • Does anyone in today’s corporate world actually can about sustainability (or the triple bottom-line)? Actually, does anyone care about managing the non-economic effects of modern business?
  • Why do lizards/geckos exist? In fact why do any reptiles exist?
  • Will I ever get a job?
  • Why do I feel lonely even when I’m surrounded by amazing people?
  • Why does the heart sometimes what very different things from the head?
  • Why does everything that’s bad for you taste so good?
  • Why do people use violence to solve problems?
  • Why do people make promises they don’t keep?
  • Why do idiots exist?
  • Will the really nice dreams you have when you are asleep ever come true?

 

I am going to stop now because you can see I can probably go on and on  if I wanted to. All that are more is at the back on my mind pretty much all the time. I think I need to get into meditation or something.

Me, quizzes and the psychopath test

I saw this quiz on another blog. Seemed interesting and as you would have noticed from the post before this I am bored so I did it. It’s fairly accurate but then again all personality quizzes tend to have fair general assessments that can apply to a broad section of the population. If you want to do the test click here.

The test labels me a considerate experiencer. One more descriptor for my personality to add to INFP, a high S-D or a healer idealist. Not sure if they all add up. This was my results. You don’t have to read it I think I am just posting it for my own benefit to save the results. You can skip to the end. Or just stop here and go about your day.

You are an Experiencer

  • Your inquisitive nature, imagination, and hands-on practicality make you an EXPERIENCER.
  • Although you have an active imagination, you also concern yourself with the functional elements of things.
  • You are willing to experiment to find things that work the most efficiently.
  • Getting stuck in certain habits is boring to you—you’d rather find new experiences.
  • Accordingly, experiences are more important to you than objects—you’d rather spend your money and energy on events and adventures than on material things.
  • You like to contemplate a lot of options before making a decision, and you’re willing and able to consider a lot of different angles to problems.
  • You’re open to suggestions, and often rely on others to assess the merit of those suggestions.
  • You have an ability to see the big picture—not just how things are, but how they could be—in a variety of situations.
  • You prefer to have time to plan for things, feeling better with a schedule than with keeping plans up in the air until the last minute.
  • You do your own thing when it comes to clothing, guided more by practical concerns than by other people’s notions of style.

 

You are Considerate

  • You trust others, care about them, and are slow to judge them, making you CONSIDERATE.
  • You value your close relationships very much, and are more likely to spend time in small, tightly-knit groups of friends than in large crowds.
  • You enjoy exploring the world through observation, quietly watching others.
  • Relating to others so well, and understanding their emotions, leads you to trust people in general, even though you’re somewhat shy and reserved at times.
  • Your belief that people are generally well-intentioned contributes to your sympathy regarding their problems.
  • Although you may not vocalize it often, you have an awareness of how society affects individuals, and you understand complex causes of people’s behavior.
  • You like to look at all sides of a situation before making a judgment, particularly when that situation involves important things in other people’s lives.
  • Your close friends know you as a good listener.

 

But then there’s another argument against psychology and personality tests. One made well by Jon Ronson. He says that maybe we shouldn’t label people based on psychology. Fairly controversial but he has some great points. Not saying I totally agree with him but his entertaining TED talk below is definitely worth a watch. If anyone is as bored as me or interested in psychology, do take a look.

Best thing I think he does in that video is compare capitalism with psychosis, he says “capitalism, at its most ruthless, rewards psychopathic behavior—glibness, the lack of empathy, cunning manipulativeness”. Food for thought.

Because, boredom

I was bored, this a cute song and I felt like posting something. I mean honestly, I have always gone with Batman over Superman but I’ll settle for Superman if I have to :D. Okay let’s face it, I have days when I feel any man is fine. Well preferably a non-smoker with a job. The job part is negotiable though.

6 Things You Shouldn’t Break Your Word On

Anita:

There are a few people that come in mind when I see 1 and 3. And more recently number 4. I don’t understand why people say things they don’t intend to follow through with. That’s just wrong and stupid. Maybe I should send this to them. Hmmm…

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

Keeping your word is your promise to someone. It is powerful. It has been lost in our generation; I have become a victim to this. I’m sorry, real talk. We have developed an immunity to break promises or brush off plans just because. Thanks a lot text messaging. It is such an easy out to send a quick text and one of the millions of sad face emojis. I hate it. I wish this easy access were not literally at my fingertips. Keeping your word is a conscious act. Your word is sacred. It’s scary to think people believe you until you give them a reason not to. It becomes scarier when we become older and our word means even more to those we surround ourselves with. Also if you’re going to be there, really be there #putthephonedown, #priorities, #noonelikedyourselfie. Here are some instances of making plans (in…

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