Movies everyone loves, but I don’t see why

Unemployment has left me in a not so great frame of mind so I have decided to do a little movie review here to keep myself occupied. So here are some movies that people seem to really love and while I find them good, I don’t think they deserved as much hype as they got.

1. Frozen

I only watched it because a cousin of mine (not this one) recommended it saying you have to watch it, especially since you have a sister. But no, it was a waste of time. This movie was predictable and not even very funny. Plus why would I want to watch something about a girl with a frozen heart? If I wanted to see someone with an icy cold heart, I just need to look in the mirror. :D And I do like animated movies so it’s not that that’s putting me off. I loved Finding Nemo and Cars. The hype about Frozen unless you are under the age of maybe 8, I don’t understand. The cousin who told me to watch it is over that age by the way.

2. Inception

I love Leonardo DiCaprio. He’s an amazing actor and most of his movies are great, Blood Diamond, Catch Me If You Can, Wolf of Wall Street to name a few. And I really really love Joseph Gordon-Levitt. So you would think I would love this movie, but I didn’t. It was alright, it was full of action and had a very clever/unique plot line. However, when people told me to go watch the film, a lot of them told me specifically that it’s a kind of movie I would like. Even though I told them I am a bit picky when it comes to the sci-fi. Thus when I finally watched it, I was kind of disappointed. It just wasn’t my kind of movie.

3. Moulin Rouge

Ever watch Tamil or Bollywood movies? This one is one just reminded me of one, and not the good ones. Not for me at all. Soundtrack’s pretty good though.

4. Sex and The City

No, just no. This one is not one that everyone love but a lot of people. I don’t get why this entire franchise, i.e.  the series/sitcom did so well. I have a lot of friends who love everything Sex and the City, I don’t understand why.

5. The Pursuit of Happyness 

Okay don’t kill me, hear me out. Again let me start by saying I love Will Smith. More than Leonardo DiCaprio (Sorry Leo!). And I love rags to riches stories. They are entertaining. And the overcoming adversity part is fairly inspiring. I also like that this was based on a true story. It was an okay movie overall, I didn’t hate it but I think the title kind of let me down. The story was more of a pursuit to capitalism than happiness, which is why I am still undecided about the movie.

Anyway overall, if you haven’t watched any movies on this list, 2 & 5 are worth watching once at least (if you have nothing better to watch). And I don’t think I am a harsh critic, I like other movies that people love (Pulp Fiction, Shawshank Redemption, A Beautiful Mind, etc),  just not these ones :p.

Tired

I think I have reached the point where I am sick and tired of everything. I am tired of sending out job applications, tired of getting my hopes up that I might actually get a job and then being let down, tired of calling companies, tired of tropical weather, tired of sitting at home, tired of not having money, tired of living in this country, tired of not being able to make travel plans to get out of the country due to the no money situation, tired of obsessing or over thinking every little aspect of my life. Yes, I am just over it all.

My reality

I am trying this whole focus on the positive thing, so I was having one of those, appreciate the little things in life moments and was admiring a pretty little butterfly fluttering by, thinking how beautiful it is with it’s a white and orange wings, when a bird (a Myna, in case you were wondering what kind) swoops down and eats it. Thanks universe for that reality check.

Shy guy

There are some songs that you hear and you just can’t help but move to the music. Like Happy by Pharrell Williams, that’s a song that you cannot not bop your head or tap your feet too wherever you are. But to be honest, I am not sure about the room without a roof part. Why would a room without a roof be happy? He could have written so many other things. Anyway, today I heard another song that made me want to wave my hands in the air (and a bit nostalgic too). It’s on the Bad Boys sound, track. Shy guy by Diana King, anyone remember that one (video below)? That song came out nearly 20 years ago. Can you believe that? I’m getting old.

 

 

How are you?

Its a question that’s both important and pointless at the same time don’t you think? We seem to have been programmed to respond to that as a reflex action without thought. But if you stop and think about what your really answer would be sometimes the actual answer is so far from the “fine/good, how are you?” that we are conditioned to say. There’s really little point in asking that question if you think about it, so why still do it? I don’t know but what I can say is if I ever ask that question, I can promise that I am very willing to listen the answer. The real, non-socially-accepted answer. No matter how long it take. Well unless I really don’t like you as a person, but I am easy going going and I am fairly easy going so there are not many people I don’t like. Though, if I really don’t like you I wouldn’t ask how you are doing. And if for some reason, maybe a force of habit to socially conform, I do ask someone I don’t care for how they are and they respond with a the “real” answer, then I deserve it. Don’t see it happening though.

The job interview paradigm

Anita:

Interesting perspective on the job hunting process. How I wish we are the ones that that have the say in whether we want a job or not. And FYI if anyone starts this revolution, I am happy to be part of it.

Originally posted on The Worlds A Broken Bone:

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Recently, I went for an interview for a job to get me through university – just to earn some expendable dollar. It got me thinking how alien job interviews actually are:

For instance; It seems strange that you can base ability to work on hobbies and peoples ability to think on the spot? With questions like Can you think of a time you’ve worked in a team effectively? Almost everyday, like when an Xbox controller runs out of batteries and the four of you scourer around looking for other electrical items to steal their power source – but i’m 100% sure that doesn’t count as an example.

The fact that they evaluate how valuable you are to them, is like wearing a shop tag which has characteristics like: Long life guaranteed, not machine washable or can be used as an expensive equivalent of slave labour!

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Introverts in Singapore

Singapore is a great country. I know from reading my blog (or if you know me in person) you might not get that, but in all honesty it isn’t too bad. It’s safe, clean, efficient, has great transport and infrastructure and pretty much all the creature comforts you can expect in a developed country. The thing is though, it’s a city-state. A small island nation with no natural resources, so in order to stay viable, all efforts are focused on the economy. It’s one big rat race here, similar to any big city around the world I would imagine. It’s crowded and commercial, and this I know is not a bad thing for most people. However, the dynamics of this city I have come to realise may not be the most conducive or agreeable for introverts.

Firstly, there’s the issue of peace and quiet. Quiet in Singapore…..yeah good luck with that. Trying to find a quiet space or spot here is like trying to find Bigfoot. Okay maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration. Though if you go  There are a few places where you can probably go but they aren’t very accessible. It’s hard to find a place like a cafe or coffee shop where you can just sit for hours with a coffee, or read or write or just recharge in general. All my usual haunts are getting filled with people. Even MacRitchie Reservoir and the trails there. That park used to have an acceptable number of people. However as park of an “upgrading” effort, the national parks board has built a multi-story carpark there so as the facilitate a larger number of people there. I wonder if there was any sustainability study done to ascertain the maximum number of visitors the park can take before there are detrimental effects to the natural environment. I doubt there was.

And that ties in with the general lifestyle here. Singapore is always described as a vibrant, fast-paced and colourful city. Which translates to a pretty fun, entertaining way of life. However it also means crowd and constant construction work. I honestly cannot remember the last time I went out of the house and didn’t see any construction work taking place. And forget going out on weekends especially the main city/town area unless you like getting your personal space violated by strangers and waiting in long lines to get a table at a nice cafe or restaurant.

Finally there’s home. Singapore is a collectivist society. Which basically means, you live at home with your parents until you A) get married,  B) get a job overseas, C) are estranged from your parents for some reason. You can’t buy a house here as a single person until you are 35, or really rich that you can afford private housing. Therefore as an introvert, having home as your sanctuary isn’t so easy here. Which might be why I struggle with the concept of home. Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents and am trying to not take for granted having a roof over my head and food. But there are times I just want to be left alone and some privacy which can be lacking when you live with family. And yes I do have my own room but at the end of the day, it’s still in my father’s house which technically makes it his too doesn’t it? I don’t think I will get away with cooping myself up in my room for hours without questions asked.

All in all, it’s hard being an introvert in a bustling, busy city. If anyone has any tips on how to escape the craziness and recharge from time to time, please do let me know.

Question quest

At any given time, there are a several questions swirling around in my head . Some I will the answers to but the others I am sure might remained answered. Here is a sampling of these.

  • Who deemed cauliflower edible?
  • Why are degrees so expensive?
  • Why do dads think they are hilarious?
  • Will I ever meet someone that didn’t LOVE the movie inception? (I mean I think it was alright – clever and entertaining but it wasn’t that fantastic)
  • Why does coffee taste so good?
  • Does anyone in today’s corporate world actually can about sustainability (or the triple bottom-line)? Actually, does anyone care about managing the non-economic effects of modern business?
  • Why do lizards/geckos exist? In fact why do any reptiles exist?
  • Will I ever get a job?
  • Why do I feel lonely even when I’m surrounded by amazing people?
  • Why does the heart sometimes what very different things from the head?
  • Why does everything that’s bad for you taste so good?
  • Why do people use violence to solve problems?
  • Why do people make promises they don’t keep?
  • Why do idiots exist?
  • Will the really nice dreams you have when you are asleep ever come true?

 

I am going to stop now because you can see I can probably go on and on  if I wanted to. All that are more is at the back on my mind pretty much all the time. I think I need to get into meditation or something.

Me, quizzes and the psychopath test

I saw this quiz on another blog. Seemed interesting and as you would have noticed from the post before this I am bored so I did it. It’s fairly accurate but then again all personality quizzes tend to have fair general assessments that can apply to a broad section of the population. If you want to do the test click here.

The test labels me a considerate experiencer. One more descriptor for my personality to add to INFP, a high S-D or a healer idealist. Not sure if they all add up. This was my results. You don’t have to read it I think I am just posting it for my own benefit to save the results. You can skip to the end. Or just stop here and go about your day.

You are an Experiencer

  • Your inquisitive nature, imagination, and hands-on practicality make you an EXPERIENCER.
  • Although you have an active imagination, you also concern yourself with the functional elements of things.
  • You are willing to experiment to find things that work the most efficiently.
  • Getting stuck in certain habits is boring to you—you’d rather find new experiences.
  • Accordingly, experiences are more important to you than objects—you’d rather spend your money and energy on events and adventures than on material things.
  • You like to contemplate a lot of options before making a decision, and you’re willing and able to consider a lot of different angles to problems.
  • You’re open to suggestions, and often rely on others to assess the merit of those suggestions.
  • You have an ability to see the big picture—not just how things are, but how they could be—in a variety of situations.
  • You prefer to have time to plan for things, feeling better with a schedule than with keeping plans up in the air until the last minute.
  • You do your own thing when it comes to clothing, guided more by practical concerns than by other people’s notions of style.

 

You are Considerate

  • You trust others, care about them, and are slow to judge them, making you CONSIDERATE.
  • You value your close relationships very much, and are more likely to spend time in small, tightly-knit groups of friends than in large crowds.
  • You enjoy exploring the world through observation, quietly watching others.
  • Relating to others so well, and understanding their emotions, leads you to trust people in general, even though you’re somewhat shy and reserved at times.
  • Your belief that people are generally well-intentioned contributes to your sympathy regarding their problems.
  • Although you may not vocalize it often, you have an awareness of how society affects individuals, and you understand complex causes of people’s behavior.
  • You like to look at all sides of a situation before making a judgment, particularly when that situation involves important things in other people’s lives.
  • Your close friends know you as a good listener.

 

But then there’s another argument against psychology and personality tests. One made well by Jon Ronson. He says that maybe we shouldn’t label people based on psychology. Fairly controversial but he has some great points. Not saying I totally agree with him but his entertaining TED talk below is definitely worth a watch. If anyone is as bored as me or interested in psychology, do take a look.

Best thing I think he does in that video is compare capitalism with psychosis, he says “capitalism, at its most ruthless, rewards psychopathic behavior—glibness, the lack of empathy, cunning manipulativeness”. Food for thought.

Because, boredom

I was bored, this a cute song and I felt like posting something. I mean honestly, I have always gone with Batman over Superman but I’ll settle for Superman if I have to :D. Okay let’s face it, I have days when I feel any man is fine. Well preferably a non-smoker with a job. The job part is negotiable though.